Well, the relationship is all about communication, trust, and unconditional love. In some cases, people always focus on what they expect from their partner or what they want and how they want to be treated.
As we all know, expectations always hurt but if you want a good relationship, you need to ask some questions yourself. And make sure that you are ready for a relationship or not. A good relationship is a bond of love full of understanding. If you want a good relationship, you need to understand personal “space”. Also, focus on yourself before diving into a relationship.
First, learn how to be humble when it comes to perfect relationships. Normally in a healthy relationship, one often speaks highly of the other and has respect for them. Because we need to let go of any judgment of the person or any expectations and be able to appreciate him as he is.
Secondly, accept the person as it is. Every single person in this world has a different mind world and different thoughts. No one can understand what I think or what I have in my mind. So, do the others. Even though some disagreements are coming from the differences, at least embracing each individuality is a good start to begin.
If you want to get a good relationship, you can ask yourself those questions:
1. Can you find a similarity between you?
Similarity means “you are like another me in the world”. People are often attracted by people who have similar values, outlook on life, attitudes toward life, and hobbies. Studies have shown that similar partners are more likely to get married than different partners. After the initial passion fades, the similar three views can make the small flame of love burn very long.
What is the similarity? Similarity means that you have a similar outlook on life, values, and world outlook. It can make you feel as if you were at first sight.
2. Do you like working together?
Do you like working together? It is whether you have common interests and enough common topics. Think about this before entering into a relationship.
For instance, what are your favorite entertainment activities? What kind of music do you like to listen to and what kind of movies do you like to watch? What are your hobbies? Keep in mind that the common topic is a shortcut to letting each other talk forever. After the hot love period, most of the relationships will enter a state of rationality and pickiness, and the shortcomings of both sides will gradually enlarge in the eyes of the other half. This is when common interests and topics come into play.
When you decide to go into a long-term relationship, you have to think about whether you can come to the end with a smile and laugh.
3. Do you have the same three views?
If you don’t like this kind of thing, you will be covered up by hormones when you first fall in love. When you live together, you will know how tired you are. One is eager for stability, the other pursues stimulation, the other always wants to break out of the world, if you like reading, he thinks it’s literature and art, he likes games, and you think games are a waste of life. There might be conflict that can occur. Having the same three views is quite important for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
Two people with completely different values, no one will change who. On the contrary, they will wear away years of love, and no one is right or wrong, but fundamentally speaking, two people are not of the same kind. If such two people live together, even if they don’t break up, they can’t live happily.
4. Do you have the same view of love and marriage?
Moreover, it is whether your inner expectations of “what love and marriage should or should not be like” are similar. How to investigate? We can understand it by asking people’s opinions on love through their love stories, or by observing his comments and opinions on some love-themed films and TV works, star infidelity, and other events in the process of getting along with each other.
If these three similarities are in tune with you, congratulations, you have reached the first step of becoming a soulmate.
5. Do you have a sense of complementarity?
Do you have a sense of complementarity? Like Lille Lenz once said, people like to find people who have similar views and interests, and have the same expectations for love. This is the deep psychological need for love. But after a long time, many similarities will make people tired. People are looking forward to finding lovers who can bring them new feelings to help them achieve perfection. Having the same friendship rings can help as well as you both will feel one by wearing them.
Therefore, we will seek some differences, which are complementary needs, also known as complementary capabilities. Therefore, the best state of love is to seek common ground while reserving differences.
The similarity is the premise of two people’s attraction, but there are differences, which is a complementary demand. Complementarity does not mean incompatibility, but the complementarity of your skills and needs. Similarity does not mean coincidence, but that you have similar three outlooks and expectations for life and the future.
Then you must be the soulmate of a pair of children, and the other half in front of you will also be the person you are most worthy of trusting to be with for a lifetime.
Many people think a relationship needs time and love. Yes, but for any relationship what’s mainly required is management. The way you conduct, the way you manage their emotions, and the way you make their adrenaline levels high are very important which I came to know very lately. So, when we met everything seems so normal but relationships are all about management.
So, to improve your relationship with your loved ones or with any other ones try to learn managing techniques. Understanding someone’s mood, and ability to manage a certain turmoil situation is needed. If you can manage such things pretty well then the ball is in the court.
Lastly, I would say that you are responsible for your happiness, it is not dependent upon the actions of others. The secret to happiness is low expectations and keep focusing on yourself and being loyal to your partner. If you expect that your life is going to be filled with constant challenges, you will not be disappointed and can enjoy the little good moments that are mixed in with many hardships.
